Your Essential Guide to Navigating the Challenges and Thrills of When You Move Abroad
Written by Kaelie Piscitello
Moving can feel like a fresh start, and while it has its perks and adventurous side, it also comes with challenges. I’ve moved four times in my life (excluding the number of times I moved in and out of college), so I know firsthand that whether you move across the world or into the town next door, relocation can always feel nerve-wracking. Following these tips will make you feel ready to settle into any new place.
Make an Effort to Befriend Your Immediate Circle
Whether you’re moving into college, studying abroad, or starting a new job, making new friends is a crucial part of the experience. Your roommate, dorm mates, or even the person sitting next to you in class are all potential friends. Remember, they’re probably in the same position of looking for new friends, too.
As an adult moving to a new city or town, it’s important to establish a support system. This could be a coworker or a friendly face at the local coffee shop. While it may feel daunting to reach out, having someone to turn to during the settling-in period can provide a sense of security.
Do What You Love
If you continue engaging in the activities you have always done, you will meet like-minded people. For example, before moving to Taipei, I researched some adult dance classes and found a studio with flexible sessions I could attend.
Then, I followed through on my plans as soon as I had the time. Not only does it give me a way to relax after work, but I know it will introduce me to other people. Keeping up with something familiar, whether that be joining a sports team or finding a bookclub, will bring you comfort and joy and help you get settled into a new community.
Brush up on a New Country’s Language
This goes without saying for most international travel, but knowing essential words and phrases before you go somewhere new will help you. Locals usually appreciate some effort, and it’s better than doing nothing.
Politeness is a universal language that can bridge cultural and linguistic barriers. Simple phrases like ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ can go a long way in showing respect and creating positive interactions, regardless of your language proficiency.
Eat Out
Knowing ‘your spots’ is more than just a habit, it’s a lifeline. These are the places you’ll turn to in times of cravings, peace, and chaos, providing comfort and a sense of home in your community.
When I moved to my apartment in Taipei, I found YiFat Noodles and it has become my favorite place for a bowl of wonton soup when I’m looking for comfort food. While cooking your meals is healthier, you will want to know where to pick up an easy dinner on a busy Monday night.
Take Yourself Out on a Self-Care Date
Moving can feel stressful, so remember to prioritize yourself! If you like to get your nails done, go to the salon (after you’ve finished the unpacking part; that might ruin them, of course).
My favorite thing to do since moving to Taiwan has been taking time to write in coffee shops, such as Mr. Brown’s. It has felt very relaxing and I even met someone to do a language exchange with there.
However, it all depends from person to person. If you like to sit by the TV with a beer, buy a pack of Samuel Adams and do it! In short, you can never take too good care of yourself, especially during uncertainty and stress.
Print Out Some Good, Old-Fashioned Photographs
Nothing makes a place more homey than pictures of good memories on the walls! Many college students have the right idea of hanging a photo wall above their beds, but that’s not the only place you can put reminders of home. I decorated my teacher’s desk in Taipei with pictures of my family and kitties.
My students love looking at the pictures, and it can be a great conversation starter for any adults dropping by my office, too. I also like to hang up the cards and going away pictures my younger cousins drew for me. These handmade items add a unique, personal touch to my space, and it’s all up to you to what will remind you of something happy and familiar.
Dress to Impress
This might just be me, but I feel much more energized when I wear makeup and a cute outfit. If I wore a sweatshirt and leggings every day when I moved to Taiwan, I would take on the mentality that I was too tired and lazy to join in on what was going on around me. I wouldn’t leave my couch.
So, I put in effort by wearing dressier clothes every morning. It also made a better impression on the people around me because I looked and felt my best and ready to greet the day.
Budget Some Extra Money for Moving Month
Moving can be expensive, and something always comes up that you need to fix or buy for your new place. My apartment in Taipei was full of mold, so my roommates and I had to buy mold killers and hire someone to clean out our air conditioners when we first arrived. My roommates and I did not account for the mold, but luckily, Fulbright gave me an extra settling-in allowance to cover the cost.
It’s crucial to plan for unexpected expenses when you move. If you’re relocating for a new job, consider asking your employer for a relocation stipend. This extra cash can be a lifesaver when you encounter unforeseen costs, providing a sense of relief and peace of mind, knowing that you’re prepared for any financial surprises.
Say Yes to Everything
As I said, engaging in what you like and meeting new people is essential when you first arrive. That being said, you should also try new and unfamiliar things. Not only could you end up having a great time, but you will also get closer to the person who invited you.
When I first started teaching in Taiwan, my coworkers invited me to a beach cleanup on a Saturday. While the community service was rewarding (and hot in the Taiwan summer heat), I made some great memories with my coworkers and learned more about them. Moving is all about trying something new, and I encourage you to step outside your comfort zone and try to say “yes.”
